36 Sexual Valentine’s Day Ideas to Make This V-Day Your Hottest Yet

Now, a threesome might not be the romantic, candle-lit evening you had in mind, but hear us out. If you and your partner are feeling a little ~adventurous~ this year, why not act like a rebel and use Valentine’s Day as a fun and slightly ironic excuse to finally go out on a date (or maybe more) with a third? And if you’re single and still in need of V-Day plans, hi, here’s your sign to join another couple for theirs!

Whether you’re brand new to butt stuff or an anal expert, banging on the backdoor is a Valentine’s adventure you can enjoy without leaving your house. Though, of course, you should still prepare, so go ahead and help yourself to these anal foreplay tips, this complete beginner’s guide to anal sex, and our recs for the very best lubes and vibes for backdoor play. No need to thank us, we’re just doing Cupid the Anal Angel’s work to ensure you have the most ass-tastic Valentine’s Day ever.

Dim lights. Hips moving against one another with the forced restraint of clothing. Sweaty bodies. You aren't just dancing if you spend Valentine's Day clubbing. It's basically high-octane public foreplay. How far can you get on the dance floor?

Edging is the act of bringing someone (in this case, you, your partner, or both) close to orgasm and then stopping, only to restart the stimulation until you’re close, then stopping again. Rinse, repeat, until someone comes their face off when daddy says it’s okay. What’s Valentine’s without a little orgasmic torture?

Sure, you could buy a Hallmark card from the drugstore, or you could give your foreplay a literary twist by penning your date a love letter; the dirtier, the better. Everyone likes to be reminded of how loved and desired they are, and there’s no way to get that message across quite like putting it in ink. People also tend to hold onto love letters, elevating this tribute from a mere gift to a timeless keepsake.

And by diamonds, we mean costume jewelry you can order on Amazon for a few bucks. It doesn’t have to be the real thing (more power to you if it is!), but how sexy does it sound to wear nothing but rocks as you get ready to knock your partner’s socks off? You can even start off by wearing a bejeweled thong and bra to match the theme of the evening.

You don’t have to spend money on a hotel or a trip if it’s not in the budget this year. Grab a few red light bulbs and light a handful of candles to totally transform your space into the sex lounge of your dreams. The total transformation will only cost you around $20 and you’ll never forget getting intimate in your own little love cave.

Whether that means trying a restaurant you’ve never tried, trying a new sex move, or indulging in a fetish you’ve never played with before, take a minute to brainstorm with your partner and see how you can make Valentine’s Day fresh AF. Bonus points if you actually end up loving something you try. If you want to be sneaky about it, start asking your partner a general question like, “What’s something you’ve been dying to do but haven’t had the time for?” Their answer might surprise you.

Have you ever wanted to kiss on top of the Empire State Building? What about in the frozen food aisle at your local grocery store? A little smooching never hurt anybody, and it can be intoxicating to pucker up at the most unexpected places. Draw up a little make out map beforehand and check off each spot one by one before you go home and indulge in the grand finale.

It doesn’t matter how cheesy or cliché it seems, having an erotic massage session is like Setting the Mood 101. Sure, you could book a bougie couples massage somewhere, but you can also get that relaxed, blissed-out feeling at home, which is great because then you can quickly transition from deep tissue to deep penetration. Grab some massage oils and watch an instructional video before pampering your person with a rubdown.

While sex toys are obviously great for some solo time, they’re just as good for couples activities as well. Since only about 18 percent of cis women reach orgasm during penetrative sex alone, using a toy that adds some extra clitoral stimulation is essential. Here are some couples toys options that will help you *and* your partner have an extra-special V-Day orgasm.

If you’re more of a low-key couple who prefers nights on the couch over nights at the club (respect), why not lean into your usual hobbies by making them sexier? There are lots of sexy shows and movies out there that get the vibes flowing. Watch something erotic like Bridgerton or even American Horror Story, and if the mood strikes, consider recreating your favorite scene. If not, simply going at it on the couch while Regé-Jean Page licks a spoon in the background isn’t the worst way to spend V-Day.

You don’t have to go all Fifty Shades here, but if both you and your partner are interested in exploring dominance or submission, there’s no better time than on V-Day. After chatting (and getting consent, ofc), grab a pair of handcuffs or a blindfold and play around with some BDSM power dynamics. Just make sure to use a safe word and take things slow, communicating and checking in as you go.

This is a great one if your partner is competitive. There are loads of sexy games on the market. Find a card game where each card either asks you a question or gives you a dare and you have to answer.

If you’ve never paid for porn before, now’s the time. Find an ethical porn site with content geared toward the female gaze—aka porn where the woman actually looks like she’s having a good time and it’s believable. Watch it with your partner, ~touch each other~, and see what happens.

There are other ways to enjoy porn if watching it isn’t your thing. Grab a BDSM book or read an erotic story aloud, concentrating on the juicy bits. If you’re not one for reading around, explore audio porn instead. There’s tons of content out there to choose from depending on your preferences, so spend some time exploring before sharing what you each like. You know, like show-and-tell, but make it sexy.

Get out of bed. Seriously! If you have an empty house/apartment/dorm room, take your shenanigans to the bathroom, the sofa, the kitchen table, the washing machine (turn it on, trust me). Maybe even open the blinds, if you’re into a little bit of voyeurism.

If you and your person can’t physically be together this Valentine’s Day, no worries. Sex-toy brands like We-Vibe and Satisfyer have apps that pair with their vibrators and sex toys. When you download it to your phone, you can control the pressure, speed pulses, etc. of the vibrator or sex toy all from within the app itself.

This is especially perfect if you want to sex up this V-Day because with consent from you, it also lets your partner control your toy from their phone. This means that no matter where in the world you are, your partner can join you during your masturbation session. Très hot.

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